1. WHY do you want to get married?
Interrogate your reasons, your motive. Is it because you want to love
and be loved long term? To raise a family? To raise a God-loving family?
For companionship? Or is it because society is forcing you? It’s the
next phase after University/ College and work?
You want to copy what
your peers have done? Single parenthood is a burden to you and you want
to use marriage to escape or lighten the burden?
You want to hook up
with someone for financial security?… Your motive will dictate
everything. If your reasons are wrong or misplaced, everything else that
follows will be messed up.
2. WHO do you get married to?
Once
you have your reasons and motive, find someone who fits that motive.
If
your reason is love, companionship, to raise a family, someone to grow
with; choose someone with the right qualities. A bus to Nigeria will not
take you to South Africa.
3. WHEN do you get married?
It’s one thing to meet the person right for marriage, it’s another to
get married. Take time to know each other, don’t rush the process of
courtship but don’t delay it too.
You both have to be ready for marriage
not just one of you. None should feel rushed or forced.
Are there
things to do before marriage? You will never be fully ready for marriage
but you must be sufficiently ready, the foundation is crucial
4. HOW do you get married?
This one is all about both your preference and style plus your
financial muscle. Is it a garden wedding, church wedding, an intimate
wedding, a big wedding, a musical wedding, a wedding at the Attorney
General’s?
Be careful not to spend so much money on a lavish wedding and
end up with a broke home in marriage. What’s the point in making a big
show for the public but financially struggle as a married couple?
You
can do a small wedding and renew your vows in a big way some years into
the marriage.
5. WHAT kind of marriage will you have?
This one is dictated by what kind of spouse you will be and what kind
of spouse your partner will be when already married.
Don’t change, don’t
stop pleasing each other, don’t stop learning each other, making each
other smile when you get married.
Spice up your love, have affairs with
each other and not outsiders, flirt with each other, go on dates with
your wife/ husband!
Capital
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