Mwanamke asimulia raha ya kuwa nyumba ndogo

UNAWEZA kushangaa lakini hicho ndicho alichokisema mwanamke aliyewahi kuwa askari,aliyafanya hayo na wanaume askari wenzake waliomzidi umri.

Kaeleza namna alivyopenda kuwa na uhusiano wa kimapenzi na wanaume waliooa.

Ni ushuhuda wa aina yake, kaeleza si tu namna alivyowapata, bali pia alivyojisikia kuwa na wanaume hao wanne waliooa.

Kaeleza sababu za yeye kupenda kuwa nyumba ndogo, faida za kuwa nyumba ndogo, na kwa nini hakupenda kuwa na wanaume 'single', aliogopa KUUMIZWA!

Aliwahi kutendwa, "aliiba' wanaume za wenzake kulipa kisasi.

Hakujisikia vibaya kula uroda na wanaume hao, hakujali hisia za wanawake wenzake, na aliona kwamba makosa yao yalisababisha wanaume hao watake kuwa naye.

Alitaka pia kupata hisia za kuona kuna mwanaume anayemjali, na kitendo cha kuwa na wanaume hao kilisababisha ajione mshindi.

Soma ushuhuda huo hapo chini.

Single women are four times more likely to find a married man attractive than someone who is unattached, according to a survey.

The fact he already has a mate adds to his ‘desirability’ factor.

Alice Waddington did not blink an eye when she discovered Mark was already married with two young children - she found him even more attractive - just as she had with the three married men she'd had
affairs with previously.

Here Alice, 39, confesses all...

Just before joining the Army, I had had my first serious relationship - but unbeknown to me, he was engaged to another girl all the time we were dating.

He was 23 to my 18, and we met when he came to my
parents' house to sell them insurance.

We had what I thought was a normal relationship until I went off to join the Army and a friend sent me a picture of his wedding from the local newspaper.

When I left, he'd told me he was going on holiday: he was actually going on his honeymoon.

To say I was devastated would be an understatement.

I was bitterly hurt, and I'm sure there was an element of revenge in my future relationships with married men.

This woman had stolen 'my' boyfriend.

So when Tom started hanging around my office, flirting with me while I took phone calls and typed up letters, I felt a secret thrill.

So what if he has married?

He lived with his wife in the barracks, but it was the easiest thing in the world to sneak off together to have a drink, or go back to my room.

We'd pass each other on the parade ground and make eye contact. It was so exciting knowing that we had our 'secret'.

But then, after a few months of our illicit encounters, he broke it off. He said he couldn't do this to his wife. I was mortified.

I didn't want him full-time; but I didn't want her to have him either.

A year later, I was in the Women's Royal Army Corps and was sent on a training course.

Almost on the first day, I spotted my next married man among all the other soldiers.

He had lovely eyes, was tall and well-built, with short dark hair. He marched past me, and our eyes met.

A frisson ran through me again. I later found out he was 23 and married with a one-year-old child.

I sometimes think I am physically drawn to married men.

Men my age who are unattached, I felt, would let me down and hurt me, and I couldn't trust them.

I know this is a perverted kind of logic, but I felt safer with a married man.

The new survey, reported last week in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, said single women in the study were significantly more interested in the man when he was attached.

This may be because an attached man has demonstrated his ability to commit and in some ways his qualities have already been ' prescreened' by another woman.

That was definitely true of me.I also loved the sense of achievement when a married man fell for me.

I think it was also a form of attention-seeking.

I had had very little attention from my parents when I was growing up, being the only girl among three boys, and when a married man gave me a lot of attention that somehow validated me as a person. I had 'won'.

I never thought about the wife's feelings - I just blanked her out. I thought it was her fault that her man was straying.

I know this sounds awful, but that was how I justified my actions to myself.