Wednesday, February 10, 2016

Why your child needs touch

Touch communicates as nothing else can, and it is irreplaceable in our lives. Think of the times in your life when you felt most comforted and most loved, those moments involved touch. 

When it comes to how much and what types of physical contact are important for a child, research offers a clear answer: young children need positive human touch, and lots of it, in all its forms-carrying, swinging, rolling, holding, a backrub, a hug, a pat, a high-five, rough-and-tumble play, even massage. 

Nurturing touch from their parents and caregivers is essential for children to feel loved and secure, interactions with their peers help develop social and emotional competence. 

Parents and teachers should understand that withholding touch can be just as physically and emotionally harmful to a child as sexual abuse or physical abuse such as hitting, grabbing, spanking, and shaking. 

When children of any age are denied touch or when they experience it only in the context of aggression or punishment, they are deprived of the nurturing environment they need to thrive and grow. 

They also will lack experiences to prepare them to discern touch that is loving and appropriate from touch that is dangerous and inappropriate and thus they are more vulnerable to sexual exploitation. 

In the realm of emotional and social development, touch is critical in fostering bonding between children and their parents and other caregivers, as well as contributing to social and emotional competence. 

Touch in physical and cognitive development 

The physical benefits of touch begin as soon as a child is born. Newborns who experience skin-to-skin contact with their mothers soon after birth cry less, sleep longer, and have longer periods of quiet alertness, which is when most learning often occurs. 

They also have higher blood sugar levels, a positive outcome in newborns. Skin-to-skin contact is also important for successful breastfeeding. Conversely, without adequate touch, infants may fail to thrive or may even die. Research has documented instances of child deaths from lack of touch. 

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Tuesday, February 9, 2016

When marriage is the only viable option

The thing with the first weeks of a pregnancy is that they really humble a woman. She is always overwhelmed by a whirlwind of emotions - mostly uncertainty - and she can scare the wits out of you. 

There are those episodes of doubt, when partners have to think through the options, especially if the pregnancy was unplanned. Everything you say as a man will be used against you. And silence is not an option. 

After the ugly scenario last week, Cindy left in haste that evening and threw her hands up in that ‘I can’t deal with your drama’ manner. You have not heard from her. Which is good. For three days, Carol didn’t talk to you. To your credit, trying to act cool as a man, you did text her. 

“Anytime you are ready for a talk on the way forward, do tell me,” to which she replied after waiting like a half a day, “OK”.

Her life is upside down. You are damn sure. Too bad some of these things are irreversible. You have your own ideas about how she can solve the problem, but until she says how she wants to herself. 

Ideally, you can ghost on her. But that is not gentlemanly. So you hit the bar to talk to the boys about this situation. You have three trusted friends.

 Men, other than buying you tons of beer, are hardly helpful when you are in a sticky situation. Men always try to give you practical advice, or money so that you can solve your own problems. 

So you gather in a pub. Four of you. Three close buddies and an acquaintance to one of your friends. The table furnished with drinks, you table the agenda. And Bob goes first,

“Can’t she just abort?” he asks in his booming, macho voice. 

That decision is hers, I can’t force it on her. 

“Can I see her photo?” Jared, your short, chatty accountant friend requests. You open her WhatsApp profile and examine it. In the picture, she is lying on the sofa, cuddling her teddy bear, it is not a very good picture. It does not do her proper justice. You try her Facebook wall and luckily there an excellent picture of her. Jared ogles her and asks, 

“Why can’t you just marry her dude?” he asks you. The year is 2050 and Jared will still be calling people dude. 

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Saturday, January 16, 2016

Basi lapata ajali likitoka Kondoa kwenda Dar

Basi lililotajwa kwa jina KIRUTO lililokuwa likitoka Kondoa kwenda Dar es Salaam limepata ajali leo eneo la Gairo.

Inasadikiwa kuwa kuna watu wamepoteza maisha.

Taarifa zaidi baadaye.
 

Wednesday, January 13, 2016

Man Secretly Tricks Girlfriend Into Miscarriage

A 27-year-old Harare man allegedly terminated his girlfriend’s pregnancy by inserting a pill into her genitals during sexual intercourse in a bid to evade responsibility, the court heard yesterday.
 
Nicholas Mutorerwa, of Number 15 Jackson Road, Hatfield, who is also an employee of the Public Service Commission, was facing charges of unlawful termination of pregnancy when he appeared before Harare magistrate Mr Elijah Makomo.
 
He was granted $50 bail with the State’s consent.
 
The prosecutor said the State was awaiting a medical affidavit from the hospital where Farai Musemburi (23) was treated.
 
Prosecuting, Ms Idah Maromo told the court that Musemburi had eloped to Mutorerwa after falling pregnant.
 
It is alleged that this prompted Mutorerwa to hatch a plan to evade responsibility.
 
The court heard that on January 9 this year, Mutorerwa secretly inserted a pill into Musemburi’s private parts while they were having sexual intercourse to induce termination of the pregnancy.
 
It is alleged that Musemburi started bleeding soon after being intimate with Mutorerwa which later led to the termination of the pregnancy.
 
The court heard that Mutorerwa later confessed to Musemburi that he had inserted a tablet into her private parts while they were being intimate which led to the termination of her pregnancy.
 
It is the State’s case that Musemburi was referred to hospital where she was examined by a doctor leading to Mutorerwa’s arrest

Tuesday, January 12, 2016

Miaka 52 ya Mapinduzi Zanzibar


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Mke wa Rais wa Zanzibar Mama Mwanamwema Shein akisalimiana na Rais Mstaafu wa Tanzania Dkt.Jakaya Kikwete leo katika kilele cha miaka 52 ya Mapinduzi ya Zanzibar  katika uwanja wa Amaan mjini Unguja.
 
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Rais Mstaafu wa Tanzania Ali Hassan Mwinyi, mke wa Rais wa Zanzibar Mama Mwanamwema Shein, Makamu wa Pili wa Rais Balozi Seif Ali Iddi na Mkuu wa Majeshi ya Ulinzi na Usalama Jenerali Davis Mwamunyange  wakiwa katika sherehe za Mapinduzi ya Zanzibar katika Uwanja wa Amaan mjini Unguja. 
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Wananchi na maofisa wa Serikali wakiwa katika sherehe za Mapinduzi ya Zanzibar  leo
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Waziri Mkuu , Kassim Majaliwa akisalimiana na Jaji Mkuu wa Zanzibar Omar Othman Makungu alipowasili katika uwanja wa Amaan mjini Unguja wakati sherehe za Mapinduzi ya Zanzibar.

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Rais wa Jamhuri ya Muungano wa Tanzania Dkt.John Magufuli akisalimiana na Mkuu wa Majeshi ya Ulinzi na Usalama Jenerali Davis Mwamunyange wakati  sherehe za Mapinduzi ya Zanzibar katika Uwanja wa Amaan.
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Rais wa Tanzania Dkt. John Magufuli akisalimiana na mke wa Rais wa Zanzibar Mama Mwanamwema Shein katika Uwanja wa Aman.
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Rais wa Zanzibar na Mwenyekiti wa Baraza la Mapinduzi Dk. Ali Mohamed Shein akiwasalimu wananchi katika Uwanja wa Amani wakati wa sherehe za Mapinduzi ya Zanzibar 
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Picha zote na Ikulu.