I want earthquakes in bed

I have a boyfriend of four years and we hope to get married someday. 

We engage in sex occasionally.

 My problem is that I don’t feel satisfied sexually because his game is down.  

I want good mind-boggling sex which he is not giving. 

I have been thinking about what I can do to improve his performance in bed so that he can make me happy. 

Please give me tips on how we can spruce our sex life.

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{Roselyn

Your take

Rose, you sound like a woman who knows what she wants in bed. Well if that’s the case, you only need to communicate with your man what you want and how you want it done. Sex is a game of the mind and it takes two to tango. Don’t compare your man’s sexual prowess with other men. Men are never equal. Remember not to hurt his ego in your quest for satisfaction. (Anonymous)

Roselyne, your priorities are upside down and you are already putting the cart before the horse. Sex is not a guarantee of happiness in marriage but is one of the aspects that spices up a marriage. Give your man a chance to be himself.

(Evans Langat)

If you find your food not well cooked, you ought to complain to the cook. Your man must have not noticed your sexual dissatisfaction. Talk to him about it and if it’s not as a result of his health or medical condition, for sure he’ll up his game. You too need to help him work this out. Appreciate his efforts and don’t complain all the time. 

(Felix-Oyugisnet).

Roselyn, sex starts before the bedroom act.   You and your man need to prepare early psychologically by sending each other romantic texts during the day to prepare the mind for the real thing at night.

(Paul Ouma)

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From what you have said, this is a good man and his poor show in bed is not reason enough to leave him. Communicate what you want then give him time and chance to up his game.

(Karina FM)

Four years is a long time and each of you should have learnt what makes the other happy in bed. Try to spice your sex life with new tricks and styles in bed. Introduce sexy

lingerie and toys into your session and be sponteanous. Celebrate holidays, birthdays with private night-outs at a resort.

(Andrew Chaplin)

Let this man know that he is not satisfying you sexually. I would suggest you visit a sex therapist together and also eat healthy foods, which can boost your man’s libido.

(Wilberforce Atsiaya)

Counsellor’s take

Many times Roselyn, when people don’t get the satisfaction they want from sex, the blame is placed on the other person. 

Maybe it is time you asked yourself if there is something you are not doing right.

 Have you had discussions with him about what you like, what would make you happy, what he can try and do a little bit more and what he should do much less off. 

Sexual satisfaction is the effect of several emotional, psychological and physical processes – it is not an activity. 

He may be doing some things which he thinks would make you happy but in actual fact he may be doing the wrong things. 

People get wild ideas from different sources (Internet, bars, the guys, magazines) and then wonder how come their partners never do such on them.

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To liven your sex life, as a couple, it is better to talk about your expectations rather than suffer in silence.

{Taurus}

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