Woman lives with husband and lover

A  Zimbabwean woman in love with two men came up with an unusual solution by getting both to move in with her, Daily Mirror reported. 

Maria Vogel, 33, originally from Bulawayo, now shares the family home in Barking, London, with her children Laura, 16, and Amy, 12 and the two men in her life Paul Butzki and Peter Gruman. Maria, was 15 when she met Paul in school and she fell pregnant with Laura two years later.

The couple got married before they had their second daughter, Amy, but the relationship hit a rocky patch in 2006. Maria told the Daily Mirror: 

“Paul was out of work for six months, and it put a strain on our relationship. The stress led to less sex and we grew apart. Although we carried on with life – cooking, cleaning, looking after the children, we’d lost our intimacy. The relationship was more brother and sister than a couple.”

Around the same time, a new manager, Peter, started at Maria’s workplace.

“Someone introduced me to Peter and when we smiled at one another, I could feel the chemistry straight away,” she says. 

“Until that moment, I’d been happily married for 13 years to my childhood sweetheart, and had never thought about being with another man.”

Peter, who was also married at the time, recalls the same instant attraction. “It was like a bolt from the blue... love at first sight,” he says.

Soon the pair was meeting secretly. “We’d meet at the local pub for lunch,” says Maria. “One day, he put a hand on my leg and my whole body began trembling with desire. I knew it was wrong but soon we were sleeping together.”

Their affair carried on for a year before Paul stumbled on messages between them on Maria’s phone.

 She managed to convince him they were just friends. But a few months later, her lover left his wife and moved from Luton, Beds, to be closer to Maria in Barking. But in 2010, Maria says she could no longer cope with the secrecy. 

“So I confessed my affair to Paul, and moved out to stay with Peter.”

Paul and the children were devastated. He says: “I was just shocked and heartbroken. I couldn’t believe Maria had left me.” Over the next few months, Paul and Maria took turns to have the children. “I felt bad about tearing the family apart,” says Maria. 

“So after work, I’d go and clean and cook for Paul and the kids then go home to Peter.”

So when the two men struck up an extraordinary friendship last year, Maria — tired of to-ing and fro-ing between her husband and lover — came up with the perfect solution... and moved Peter into the family home with Paul.

Incredibly, the men agree. Paul, a railway assessor, says: 

“Peter is a great guy. When Maria first had the affair with him, I was heartbroken. But as I got to know him, I realised we have so much in common. We both adore fishing, and he’s like a surrogate dad to the kids.” Peter sleeps on the sofa, while Paul has a room upstairs. Maria shares a bedroom with her eldest daughter. She says: 

“The three of us never share a bed. Although I have a sexual relationship with each man, that side is kept very private.

“If Paul is out, then Peter and I might make love, and vice-versa. But both men turn a blind eye and we never discuss it with one another.” The ‘family’ is now in the process of buying a larger house to accommodate them all.