'Wazazi walinichagulia mume'

KWA wanandoa kila mmoja ana sababu za kumuoa au kuolewa na huyo mwenzi wake.

Zipo sababu kutoka ndani ya muhusika (katika nafsi yake) na pia kuna sababu kutoka nje yakiwemo mashinikizo ya jamii, ndugu, wazazi au hata mazingira.

Wapo wanaoweza kusimulia kwa nini kaolewa an kamuoa fulani, lakini kwa wengine huwa ni siri.

Zamani ilikuwa jambo la kawaida kwa wazazi kumchagulia binti yao mume na pengine hata wanaume walichagiliwa watu wa kuwaoa.

Kwa dunia ya sasa mmh! hebu fikiria, leo wazazi na ndugu wamejenga mazingira ukutane na fulani, na chini ya wiki moja wanapanga na kufanikisha ndoa, na mbaya zaidi unaolewa na mtu ambaye nafsi yako inatambua kwamba HAKUNA upendo kati yenu.

Si hivyo tu, hayo yote yanatokea wakati umerudi nyumbani likizo, na moja ya sababu kubwa iliyosababisha yote hayo ni umri wako, una miaka 30's, wazazi wanaona unachelewa kuolewa.

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Anita Singh, 42, a business advisor, has been married to civil engineer Amarjit Singh, 39, for 11 years. They don’t have any children and live in Dewsbury, West Yorkshire.

She says:'Amarjit and I had only met twice before we married in April 2000. Our match was arranged for us by friends and family. I never questioned it and trusted that the people who knew us and loved us would get it right.

Anita and Amarjit married less than a week after meeting after being set up by their families'Of course, we didn’t love each other at the time but I’d no doubt we could make it work.

'My parents came to Britain from India in the Sixties to run a Post Office and I was born here, along with my three younger siblings. Although my parents had a successful arranged marriage, they never forced us into one.

'I went to university and had a very British childhood and adolescence, with lots of fun and freedom — but I was always knew my parents would like me to marry an Indian man.

'By the time I reached the age of 31, and was still single, they started dropping not very subtle hints about me leaving it a bit late.

'Mum’s relatives back in India were horrified that I was still unmarried in my 30s and took it upon themselves to set me up.

'There is nothing an Indian auntie likes better than a spot of match-making.

'At the time I thought: ‘Why not?’

'I didn’t have to go through with it and men weren’t exactly falling over themselves to date me.

My mum was 19 when she married my dad and their union is unbelievably deep, genuine and strong. On a holiday to India I was introduced to Amarjit.

He came from a good, modern-thinking family. He was educated, polite and very handsome but, even so, after our first meeting I wasn’t blown away.

'My family kept telling me what a wonderful husband he’d make and how our zodiac charts showed the best match they had ever seen.

'So, two week’s later, we announced our engagement. My mother is never wrong about anything and I trusted her to get this right too

'After an amazing traditional wedding in India, we came back to the UK. My British friends were shocked. And I won’t deny the first three years were very testing — we were, after all, both living with strangers.

'But slowly, day by day, as I got to know Amarjit’s kindness and humour, love grew.

'Now he is not only my best friend, he is my one and only true love.'