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A GOOD number of couples get married hoping to start making babies as soon as the wedding party is over. Many go into honeymoon hoping to come out with pregnancy. 

 

I remember having to avoid phone calls from both my family and that of my husband just three months after our white wedding (which was when I started living with him). 

 

But I know of couples who go into that stress immediately the bride price is paid. Everybody wakes up in the morning waiting to hear that it has happened.  

 

When are we going to drop this whole crazy style of living? I am writing from the

Christian perspective. When God created Adam, He looked and saw that he was alone. That was when He decided to give him a partner, Eve. 

 

Guys, the first reason for every marriage is companionship. This is where we get it wrong.

How many of our marriages today can boast of the right companionship? 

 

Men get married for the wrong reasons and that has led to a lot of pain in our homes. 

 

A man, on becoming an adult, is put under pressure by his mother who would start crying for a grandchild even before a marriage is contracted. 

 

This is the reason a woman is put under so much pressure as soon as she steps into her husband’s house.

A lot of childless women today are not childless because they are not fruitful. 

 

A good number of them are childless because there is no peace in their heart.

 

 I remember years back when an aunt called her son to order when he tried putting the wife under undue pressure because of her inability to have a child. 

 

She warned him never to put her under stress and threatened to take the girl away if he continued. 

 

He changed and I can tell you that they have three boys today. How I wish we had more parents, especially mothers, like her in Africa.

Why do we have many of our mothers trouble their daughters-in-law so much on account of childlessness only to live in prayer houses when their own daughters go through a similar experience? 

 

Why do men console their sisters and their husbands over childlessness but hate their own wives over the same problem, often times marrying a second as a solution? 

 

As I always say, women are their own worst enemy. 

 

If women don’t put their sons under pressure, they won’t opt for a replacement.

Worse still is that women are now seen as childless until they have a son (plight of the African woman). 

 

I can understand how you feel as a man without a child. 

 

But I can tell you this: the woman feels it more. She loves you so much that she wants to be the mother of your baby. I know there are terrible women who go into marriages just to strip the men of all they have and move on with their lives life. 

 

It might interest you to hear that there are young girls who make up their mind not to have a baby for you. 

 

Some of them lived very rough lives, got their womb destroyed and in some cases removed. They are just agents of darkness out for your destruction. But I believe your wife loves you.

It takes the special grace of God for a woman who is looking for the fruit of the womb and is put under pressure by the society, to conceive. 

 

Men, please do all you can to protect the woman you met, fell in love with and took in as your better half. 

 

When both of you are united, your child (male or female) will come. I also have to remind you that you, the man, are responsible for the sex of the baby. 

 

The woman has XX chromosome while you have XY. 

 

If you give out X during intercourse, it meets with her X to produce a female. But if you give out Y, it becomes a baby boy when it meets her X.

A lot of women go from one hospital to the other believing everything is wrong with them. I know a woman who was verbally abused for 12 years. 

 

Her mother-in-law hated her, her husband couldn’t care less; he watched as the woman was called all sorts of names for years. 

 

Meanwhile, he man never agreed to go to any doctor. 

 

It got to a point that the woman ran away from their house in Abuja and went to stay with her mother in the village.

 

 Today, this same lady who was accused of destroying her womb in the university is a mother of a five-month old baby. 

 

On the other hand, the man who, with his family, emotionally tortured her for years, is married to another woman without any child! Guys, who is now the source of the problem?

You tell your wife how you impregnated girls as bachelors. You lived your life sleeping with different kinds of girls. 

 

You wasted your substance so early in life and had untreated Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD) and now you make that poor woman the scapegoat?

Men vomit terrible words to their wives. The woman takes her bath at night, applies very nice fragrance on her body, doing all this in the hope of making it this particular ovulation period. 

 

But what do you tell her as she comes into your room? 

 

“I am tired of wasting my time on a fruitless tree!” How could you be so mean and cruel to a fellow human being?

 

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